Thursday, July 10, 2008

Pesanan untukku.....

Disini aku lampirkan perasan dari Dr Haniza Rais, lecturer aku di UIAM. Sangat-sangat aku perlukan disaat berdepan dengan kesedihan Matin sekarang ni. MAtin anak manja mak. Hilang yang tak akan ada galang gantinya.

Arni
So sorry to hear about your mom in-law

what you can do probably, just be there for him. he may not want to
talk about it yet. tell him that you are concern about him. You feel
the sadness too. Tell him it is ok to feel what he feels now.. he
doesn;t have to talk about it but always know that you are there for
him to share anything. slowly, when he is ready, ask him what is
bothering him now than his mom no longer around. How can you be
helpful to him. hold his hand, share the emotion as you are the
closest to him next to his mom. tell him that you can not replace
mom. a loss is a loss. ajak dia make doa for mom - something that will
bring good to mom - doakan dia..baca quran.. ikatan tak putus melalui
itu aje nak sambung hubungan anak -emak..he may have regrets. slowly
try to figure out the regrets....tak sempat buat itu atau ini untk
emak. tapi always remember his mom needs his doa more that anything
else now.. notheing else matter.

don;t push it..take it slowly, be natural.. be there for him and more
understanding of what he is going through .. only he knows what it
feels so don;t make assumption. it can lead to lots of stress.. es
when men dont; talk his emotion..

salam takziah kat your husband..take care

Al Fatihah

Bonda mertua ku Puan Saayah binti Asmawi pergi jua mengadap Ilahi. Sudah perjanjiannya begitu. Tepat pukul 11 pagi hari Ahad 6 July 2008. Teresak Matin dibahu aku. Tak daya aku memujuknya. Tapi aku perlu terus lebih kuat dari dia. Semuanya telah terduga. Mujur semalam semua sempat berdepan dengan arwah mak. Walaupun dalam keadaan koma, tapi menurut doktor yang merawat, mak sedar dan mendengar. Disuruh ahli keluarga membacakan Yasin. Sempat aku bisikkan mohon ampun dan maaf. Banyaknya dosa ku tak terhingga rasanya. Pilu rasa hati bila tiap kali dipeluk dan diucap takziah, Matin pasti tersedu. Aku hanya mampu memerhati dari jauh. Sengaja aku biarkan dia sementara, biar dilayan dulu perasaan sedihnya. Bodoh andai aku suruh dia supaya tidak bersedih, bersabar dan bertenang. Orang gila pun menangis saat kehilangan insan yang disayangi. Tapi tiada rasa ralat dihati sebab Matin sedaya upaya semasa hayat arwah mak, membuat mak gembira, sentiasa dipenuhi permintaan mak, cuma kadang bila diminta pulang selalu apalah daya kami yang jauh dan sentiasa beragenda. Dengan keluarga serumah pun susah nak bersua muka, inikan pula keluarga di kampung. Kepada mak di sana, doa kami sentiasa mengiringi mak di sana. Moga mak ditempat disisi orang-orang yang beriman. Al Fatihah.