Pesanan untukku.....

Disini aku lampirkan perasan dari Dr Haniza Rais, lecturer aku di UIAM. Sangat-sangat aku perlukan disaat berdepan dengan kesedihan Matin sekarang ni. MAtin anak manja mak. Hilang yang tak akan ada galang gantinya.

Arni
So sorry to hear about your mom in-law

what you can do probably, just be there for him. he may not want to
talk about it yet. tell him that you are concern about him. You feel
the sadness too. Tell him it is ok to feel what he feels now.. he
doesn;t have to talk about it but always know that you are there for
him to share anything. slowly, when he is ready, ask him what is
bothering him now than his mom no longer around. How can you be
helpful to him. hold his hand, share the emotion as you are the
closest to him next to his mom. tell him that you can not replace
mom. a loss is a loss. ajak dia make doa for mom - something that will
bring good to mom - doakan dia..baca quran.. ikatan tak putus melalui
itu aje nak sambung hubungan anak -emak..he may have regrets. slowly
try to figure out the regrets....tak sempat buat itu atau ini untk
emak. tapi always remember his mom needs his doa more that anything
else now.. notheing else matter.

don;t push it..take it slowly, be natural.. be there for him and more
understanding of what he is going through .. only he knows what it
feels so don;t make assumption. it can lead to lots of stress.. es
when men dont; talk his emotion..

salam takziah kat your husband..take care